asfish wrote:
For a long time I had the same type of dream in the week, more so If I had booze on the weekend.
Quite hard to describe as the details of them differ but the theme is the same
I find myself in an impossible situation, almost like I have an overflowing buck of water that I can't stop, or sometimes I have dream that things are coming into the room and I can't get away, with those I wake up freaked out.
Some years ago I would sometimes have a sort of sleep walking thing as well were I would sit up in bed but in a sleep walking state, my wife said once she touched my arm and asked me if I was Ok and I raised my hand to hit her but didn't
She also said once I did sleep walk but she told me to get back into bed and I did
Its been ages since there was any sleep walking stuff and I don't go out as much and exercise now so the not had a dream of this type I can remember for a while.
Also maybe 1-2 times a year I have a vivid dream that my wife has fucked off and left me and its always my fault, I wake up really sad
Really odd as since my son has been born he is in them as well??!
I have a recurring dream where the details are different but the situation similar, too. For me it is always some incredible doom type thing falling from the sky in the distance, getting closer and closer. It has been lightning bolts, alien craft and meteors before now. In the lightning one every time a lightning bold hit the earth, everyone who was touching the ground was instantly killed, so you had to jump to avoid being in contact with the ground as the bolt hit, whilst at the same time running away from the advancing clouds and their lightning. It was terrifying.
Russell used to talk and act out his dreams all the time when we first met, but about 6-8 months after we met they seemed to slow down and then stop. he did karate chop me in the throat a few weeks after we first met, though (in his sleep).
I think that the dreams about your wife (and child) are the brain's way of both playing out situations to show how you'd feel and cope in your worst situations, and also a subconscious prod to yourself not to mess things up. So your brain is warning you to be your best for your family, and reminding you why you really don't want to mess things up in real life, else you'll suffer the consequences and the same sadness that your dream has given you glimpses of. I think it's a totally natural and perhaps useful type of dream.