The 'NAY!' Thread

Goddess Jasmine · **Posted:** Thu Dec 03, 2020 19:52

Jem, I'm so sorry. It sounds like you may have already psychologically distanced yourself from her, but the mind is a funny thing and you may find yourself feeling upset when you least expect it.

Either way, if you need anything, you know where we are. :luv:

xxx

Joans · **Joined:** 31st Mar, 2008 **Posts:** 8457

Really sorry to hear that Jem.

NervousPete · **Posted:** Thu Dec 03, 2020 19:57

I'm so sorry to hear that Jem. Grief has a way of biding its time and ambushing sometimes. Thinking of you, and sending hugs. :luv:

Kovacs, Zardoz, my sympathies for your losses as well. Hugs to the both of you too. :luv:

What a grim week for the Nay! thread.

Jem · **Posted:** Thu Dec 03, 2020 20:02

Thank you all :luv:

Dimrill · **Posted:** Thu Dec 03, 2020 20:29

It's horrible to lose a parent, Jem, my sincere condolences. The death of my Step-Father took a few months to register completely and I'm still trying to recover from it some 12 years later. Don't be afraid to talk to someone if you need to unburden. xx

DavPaz · **Joined:** 27th Jun, 2008 **Posts:** 36806

Sorry to hear that Jem. :hug:

MaliA · **Posted:** Thu Dec 03, 2020 21:28

Sorry to hear that, Jem.

KovacsC · **Posted:** Thu Dec 03, 2020 22:37

Jem wrote:

My mum died yesterday morning after being in and out of hospital lately.

My relationship with my mum has been virtually non-existent in recent years and I kinda feel like I've grieved that loss a hundred times over. I had decided to visit her regardless of the state of things but was an hour too late.

I just feel ... nothing. I have a feeling it'll hit me at the funeral maybe. I don't know. 2020 has been a rollercoaster.

I am so sorry to hear this.

miki · **Joined:** 30th Apr, 2011 **Posts:** 1310 **Location:** NL

I'm so sorry Jem, hugs
I had a bad relationship with my father and he died so I had my own weird time with that

TheVision · **Posted:** Thu Dec 03, 2020 22:47

I'm really sorry to hear this Jem.

Kern · **Posted:** Fri Dec 04, 2020 7:28

Deepest sympathies.

sdg · **Posted:** Fri Dec 04, 2020 9:55

Really sorry to hear this Jem. Whatever you feel over the coming days, weeks and months, all of those feelings are valid so don’t feel expected to feel a particular way.

devilman · **Posted:** Fri Dec 04, 2020 10:07

Sorry for your loss too, Jem. x

Malc · **Posted:** Fri Dec 04, 2020 10:25

So sorry to hear that Jem,

Pauline had similar experiences when her Dad died (she kicked him out of their family house when she was about 12, and had very little to do with him since then).

I don't think there is a "normal" way to deal with the death of an estranged parent, so just do what feels best.

Mimi · **Joined:** 27th Mar, 2008 **Posts:** 22481

Sorry to hear of your news, Jem, and may I echo SDG’s words. It sounds an emotionally confusing time. Make time to care for yourself x

Kovakc’s and Zardoz, sorry to hear of your losses and the circumstances in which you found out, Kov.

DBSnappa · **Posted:** Fri Dec 04, 2020 12:49

Erk! So sorry to hear your news Jem.
I suspect you may be in shock, and you’re right, if the funeral doesn’t hit home, then it will sometime after. Hope you’ve got some good friends to unload with.
Take care

Warhead · Noob as of 6/8/10

Damn. I got them after Christmas Break, don’t wanna go back to work blues.

And I overslept.

DavPaz · **Joined:** 27th Jun, 2008 **Posts:** 36806

Warhead wrote:

Damn. I got them after Christmas Break, don’t wanna go back to work blues.

I've just come in to a completely deserted Head Office. Gonna be a quiet day for me

KovacsC · **Posted:** Tue Dec 29, 2020 10:58

I am not back till the 4th

Warhead · Noob as of 6/8/10

I shouldn't complain too much, I have a few calls so I won't be sitting in a freezing van all day, unlike my team mate yesterday.

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