Be Excellent To Each Other

You can't post here intimating at an entertaining FB rant and then not share. FOR SHAME MR THEVISION, FOR SHAME.

Man oh man. Also, airing it that way won't help them sort it out, potentially ending up as a permanent reminder. A friend of mine did something similar, meeting someone on his stag do and continuing with it after the wedding. His wife found out - told by anonymous letter - and ended up kicking him out for a week, maybe two. Fixed time period, anyway, much more on the 'think about what you're doing' line, than 'fuck off forever'. He realised what he was endangering, came back with apologies and they've been happy together ever since.

Honestly, I can sympathise. The amount of times I've been sorely tempted to lay out every tiny thing my ex did/continues to do so that family and so-called friends stop believing his bullshit is... well, I've lost count. It's incredibly hard knowing that people out there believe all manner of bullshit and wanting to set the record straight is normal.

Must be the bigger person though.

If you stay quiet, folks think you are in the wrong, if you say something you are spiteful. Very fine line to walk.

I rapidly realised that it didn't matter what I said anyway, people would still jump to conclusions or believe the bullshit. Fuck 'em.

She can deal with the betrayal in any way she sees fit, in my eyes. She's not in the wrong here.

I agree with the first sentence, but the second is an assumption. For all you know the FB post is a string of lies.

I totally agree that she's not in the wrong and I can only imagine how difficult it must be to come to terms with.

I've just been to see her to offer my support. Obviously, I was friends with him before she came on the scene but that doesn't change the fact I consider her a friend now care about her. I didn't really know what I was going to say but I'm glad I went. It was the right thing to do. I doubt she'll take me up on the offer but she knows now that my family are there if she needs us.

Oh, I'm assuming the infidelity was confirmed by Vision.

Quite. And maybe she is in the wrong - maybe she's been sleeping with his brother, or stabbing him with knitting needles, and that lead to him finding solace in the arms of another, and she's only giving one side of the story. Or maybe it's just one of those things, as humans are all fallible and relationships are a messy complicated business at the best of times. Or maybe it's all true and she's completely in the right. We, of course, don't know.

Good work MrChris.. and yes, the infidelity is confirmed.

Any updates?

**Update**

Not much to tell you really. I went to see her yesterday at work and she said that she'd kicked him out. I knew this as he's stopping at one of his friends houses for the time being. She was very composed and calm about it all so that's good. They had a discussion on Sunday evening apparently where he came clean and told her everything (Well, I presume he did. I'm not sure I know everything to be honest?) She admitted that she'd hit him with a rolled up newspaper and that she wasn't proud of that. I told her to be sensible. The last thing she needs is to get in trouble with the law!

We all normally play online on a Monday night but he sent a message saying he wouldn't be able to join us. Apart from that, it's just been me and my other friends in quite a state of disbelief. He was the last person we'd expect this from.

Ah, the Millwall Brick. Well, crikey. Presumably they don't have children.

They don't, no. They have a house and a cat together. I'm not sure either of them can afford to buy the other out so lord knows what's going to happen there?

Cats aren't all that expensive, they should be able to come to a deal.

£2, tops. Hessian bag and a housebrick.

Sat is single and looking for some rebound loving, bee tee dubs.

:|

Why would you want a dude that might cheat on you?

So the "other women" doesn't want him to live with her? Or is she married as well!?

I have a married mate who could never keep it in his pants.

He got caught out when he gave an old IPhone to his daughter and either didn't wipe it first or had messages linked from his. So his daughter found all the saucy messages between him and his latest lady friend

Think his wife had long suspected, but this was proof.

He told me about 3 weeks after it all came out, he was asleep in the spare room and his wife removed a draw from the clothes chest and smashed on his head! So you friend shouldn't feel too bad.

He is still with this other girl who is very attractive and runs a pub, still messing around though

On my commute I'm regularly shocked at the dalliances I see going on.

The men with two phones (like two iPhones or an iPhone and a burner Nokia, not your company-issue Blackberry and iPhone).

Flitting between one messaging app and another (presumably to avoid risk of cross-contamination), sending inane pleasantries. "Morning babe." "Morning darling". "Awite babe". And then shimmying across these threads of "alleged" adultery for the remainder of the journey.

They always have wedding rings. They're often old and balding.

I saw one man who looked a little like Captain Mainwaring sweatily posting responses to BDSM ads for couples on his phone.

The best time had nothing to do with fooling around though. I sat next to a middle-aged chap in a pin-stripe suit, with an incredibly red face. He was swigging (but never spitting) from a bottle of Listerine throughout the journey. He had a Discman, into which I saw him insert a Tina Turner CD. He was reading hardcore pron on his Kindle Fire - properly graphic stuff. And sending messages to a woman he was meeting for a date that evening.

I'm a very nosy commuter.

The "other woman" is ten years his junior and still lives with her parents. I'm guessing they wouldn't be too keen on it.

"You've no business, as God's my witness, with a child as young as mine", So make sure that she's old enough, before you blow your mind.

"Young girl, get out of my mind. My love for you is way out of line. Better run, girl. You're much too young, girl."

Mrs C has her breast cancer screening appointment tomorrow - the GP was really referring as a precaution as she was fairly confident it was fibrocystic something or other, but still, Mrs C is fairly nervous, as you can imagine...

I hope everything turns out to be ok, Mr C

Sending positive thoughts to you all.

Absolutely.. Fingers crossed it all goes well for you!

Good luck to you all, Mr Chris

Hope it all turns out well for her.

Good luck Mrs Chris. Give her lots of support MrChris. I know how frightening these things can be.

Good luck Mr and Mrs Chris xx

Will be thinking of you and MrsC tomorrow, Mr Chris. I have my check up tomorrow but I'm fairly certain they'll say I'm fine and will just need the lumpy bit removing if it doesn't go down as the lump has subsided but left a dark patch with a little lump.

A big part of me is feeling sorry for my Dad still being stuck in hospital - he's now on a regular ward, but with regular visiting hours rather than the 24/7 visiting that AMU allows. He also now has six stitches in his head after stumbling in the loo.

A small part of me is also annoyed at some of the stuff that he's either kept quiet about or left too long (I'll spare the details as they're not pretty). I know us men can be stubborn about getting medical stuff sorted, but he's taken things to an extreme.

Also annoying to see a heavily pregnant woman smoking away outside the maternity ward, but her choice I suppose.

I always got sad nods as I left the paeds oncology ward for a fag. And was still judgemental at the people smoking outside maternity.

Another day, another nay.

So… With my dads ongoing health problems, he ended up in hospital yesterday. Not sure how he’s done it but he’s fractured a vertebrae in his lower spine. Not sure how they’re going to fix it but he’s going to be in for a few days.

My wife called my mom this morning to see how she is and she told us that my uncle went into hospital last night! He’s had problems with a DVT recently but yesterday, he felt his heart racing and it wouldn’t stop so they took him in. Normally he’s as fit as a fiddle but there you go.

Rubbish all round I’m sure you’ll agree. If it wasn’t for bad news, I’d have no news at all.

Oh, mate. I'm sorry it's shit at the moment. It'll stop being shit, soon.

Are you sure? I've still got to put up with all you lot at the cottage soon!

TruFax

Due to a combination of long-term team shrinkage, sickness and holidays, the university where I work currently has 2 IT support technicians available to work. I am one of them. One tech per campus.

I'm sure it'll be fine.

Fingers crossed that it's a quieter day than usual.

Oh, that's balls.

Hope the University's decision goes your way, mate.

I think he's saying that the team shrinkage has previously happened and that there are now holidays and sickness leading to there not being enough people at work today. Not that he's in fear of his job. Is that right?

Correct. 3 on holiday, 2 on sick.

But I appreciate the sentiment, Z-Man

Ah, sorry, not had my coffee yet.

Well that's good news then! So shut up

Thankfully this sentence didn't end as it could have done.

My work is generally pretty low stress and I don't think I've left the office after five in all the years I've worked here. That could be about to change, albeit temporarily, because some stupid fucking financial regulation comes into force in January and, as is often the way with these things, the company as a whole has pissed away all the time we had to prepare for it. So it's likely to be a mad fucking scramble between now and then to get the changes implemented and the fact that it needs to be done for January can pretty much guarantee that my Christmas will be a shitshow. I usually take a few weeks off around that time and I'm not looking forward to having that shat on. Stupid fucking MiFID.