I'm looking for a new job as the current one has become a fairly obvious dead-end. Having to write my CV from scratch as I haven't updated it for nine frickin' years. The perils of being in one job too long!

Wish me luck!

I'm looking for a new job as the current one has become a fairly obvious dead-end. Having to write my CV from scratch as I haven't updated it for nine frickin' years. The perils of being in one job too long!

Wish me luck!

I'm looking for a new job as the current one has become a fairly obvious dead-end. Having to write my CV from scratch as I haven't updated it for nine frickin' years. The perils of being in one job too long!

Wish me luck!

Well, I've stuck my oar in for 2 jobs tonight. Not too confident as it goes, but it's not like I've got THE FEAR just yet

I've been at my place for a shade over 9 years now. Technically three different roles but two of them changed drastically. My last face to face interview was for the job before this one in 2008.

Got given an IoM fiver in my change for a coffee. Didn't realise. Balls.

Any bank will change it for you if shops are being arsey with you about taking it. (Shops can refuse to take it if they want to.)

Oh, jolly good, thank you (although you've just done yourself out of a pint and a half).

£3.33 a pint?!

Best of luck to your wife MrChris!

Thanks Miki!
She's feeling a bit better and has just about coped taking the kids to and from school the last day and a half, but it's taking a toll, poor thing. Thankfully next week's half term so should be a bit easier.

Only a man with a job to escape to would view half term as "easier" ;-)

Quite, but those were her words!!!

And via a massive and epicly stupid text conversation it's somehow all my fault, I'm not doing enough, I am a terrible parent, I am controlling him and I need to change.

Nearly three years 'free' and this cunt still gets to me.

So cross right now

Asked my ex to buy Olly (sprog #2) some new school shoes on Jan 23rd (I was skint with impending tax bill of doom). Gave him URL etc - he literally just had to pay for them. He said no probs. Asked regularly if he'd ordered them, ex finally says he bought them on 30th but still no sign.

Got fed up of waiting for them to appear, ordered them myself on Monday, they arrived yesterday.

Ex's shoes miraculously showed up yesterday too (apparently, I haven't actually seen them) which means he also ordered them on Monday. The 6th, not the 30th.

And via a massive and epicly stupid text conversation it's somehow all my fault, I'm not doing enough, I am a terrible parent, I am controlling him and I need to change.

Nearly three years 'free' and this cunt still gets to me.

So long as you know that this is his stuff and don't make it yours. You know it's not true. Xxx

Coming from the other side of the fence I can be shit with stuff like that I freely admit. My ex has to remind me about various things to do with Shorts - which shouldn't be her job.

It really isn't your fault.

I made a point of letting my ex wife know that (despite her infidelity which preciptated the split) I realised in retrospect I had been an unreasonable bastard at times and that had I dealt with the infidelity better and not let it fester then things may well have been different.

The winner of an argument is not necessarily the one who is right but the one who either has the better debating skills or is the most stubborn. Don't feel like because you lost some arguments (or felt like you had) that you were in the wrong.

Other people don't get to see that side of the charmer that ingratiates himself with with a facile easy manner that belies the lack of substance beneath, so they don't ever get to experience the wanker side so can't empathise. Not that I am saying your ex is a wanker per se - but it sounds like wanker behaviour.

Men are generally fucking idiots but the system is engineered so that somehow it's the woman's fault that we're the idiot. "I left her because all she did was have a go at me". Er, because you didn't do any of the things you were supposed to, you massive prick.

Someone I know has been married under a year and is now making excuses for the fact that her husband has no job, a coke habit, owes drug dealers and loan sharks money, doesn't do anything around the house and smashes his phone when he gets annoyed. And yet he is arguing that she makes him feel like he 'can't do anything right' and that's actually working on her.

Also when I say generally fucking idiots I exclude most people on the forum of course. Except Cavey. Of course. (love you really, man)

It really isn't your fault.

I made a point of letting my ex wife know that (despite her infidelity which preciptated the split) I realised in retrospect I had been an unreasonable bastard at times and that had I dealt with the infidelity better and not let it fester then things may well have been different.

The winner of an argument is not necessarily the one who is right but the one who either has the better debating skills or is the most stubborn. Don't feel like because you lost some arguments (or felt like you had) that you were in the wrong.

Other people don't get to see that side of the charmer that ingratiates himself with with a facile easy manner that belies the lack of substance beneath, so they don't ever get to experience the wanker side so can't empathise. Not that I am saying your ex is a wanker per se - but it sounds like wanker behaviour.

Men are generally fucking idiots but the system is engineered so that somehow it's the woman's fault that we're the idiot. "I left her because all she did was have a go at me". Er, because you didn't do any of the things you were supposed to, you massive prick.

Someone I know has been married under a year and is now making excuses for the fact that her husband has no job, a coke habit, owes drug dealers and loan sharks money, doesn't do anything around the house and smashes his phone when he gets annoyed. And yet he is arguing that she makes him feel like he 'can't do anything right' and that's actually working on her.

Also when I say generally fucking idiots I exclude most people on the forum of course. Except Cavey. Of course. (love you really, man)

Men are generally fucking idiots

Don't get me wrong, he IS a wanker, and even on my darkest days I know that we should have never been together. I have such classic memories as him screaming in my face that I should just have an abortion when I got pregnant the first time (accidental, unplanned); his 3 day rant about how I was ruining everything and going to make us go bankrupt the first time I went self-employed (and then earning more per month than he ever did); his "jokes" that I should just get drunk so that we could have anal sex because my discomfort after being raped multiple times 'that way' through the ages of 7-14 meant I couldn't bring myself to do it....

But if my own mother can sit there and drink tea with the man that did this? If after 3 years I'm still so fucking angry I'd gladly cut the brake pipes on his car if there weren't the risk that my children would be in it? If him failing to buy a pair of shoes (and telling a silly lie about) it causes me to get this worked up? Maybe I am the one with the issues after all.

Quoted for truth

Men get distracted by the boobies.

And yogi.

Men get distracted by the boobies.

Men get distracted by the boobies.

Often mid sentence

I can't even pretend this isn't true as GJ will show up with a big list of all the times I was an idiot.

Yeah I completely

You are a good Mum and one of the things I really admire about your is your honesty about how hard it is and the range of emotions that children can evoke from you. Also, you can cry on my boobs any time you like.

(Your ex sounds like a massive cockwomble )