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Author:  MaliA [ Fri May 12, 2017 11:04 ]
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Lonewolves wrote:
That's a great story. It's amazing how we can't see how bad some relationships are for us until we finally meet the right people.


And me.

Author:  Malc [ Fri May 12, 2017 11:09 ]
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I was working in the 2nd internet cafe to open in London (the first was called Cyberia, near the Telecom Tower, the 2nd was called Cafe Internet, on Buckingham Palace Road)

I fancied one of the cafe staff, but she did not fancy me (I mentioned her in the nay thread, where she was killed with her children by her partner last year)

I was talking to another member of staff when my future wife, came over to us and asked me to the cinema after work, she had intended to ask just me, but we both thought she was asking both of us.

At some point, during the film, the other guy went to the loo, at that point my future wife kissed me and told me she'd not meant for the other guy to come, she'd just wanted to invite me. She asked me if I wanted to go cycling in Epping Forrest that weekend. I said yes!

I lived in Westminster, she lived in Leytonstone (both in London), the plan was for me to cycle to her flat, and then we would cycle on to the forrest with a picnic.

When I got to her flat, I was exhausted, I had caught a stinking cold, and it had really taken it out of me, so we stayed in her flat listening to 60s records and drinking wine.

We dated for a couple of months, and then she decided to go to Moscow for 6 months!

I felt sure that it was over, however, I spoke to her on the phone at least once a week, and we continued dating once she was back, moving in together shortly before our eldest was born a couple of years later.

So that first date was in November 1995, almost 22 years ago, and we've been living together since May 1998, 19 years!

Author:  Hearthly [ Fri May 12, 2017 11:31 ]
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Lonewolves wrote:
That's a great story. It's amazing how we can't see how bad some relationships are for us until we finally meet the right people.


I should note that it wasn't the perfect relationship was from day one. At the time I was a hopeless fruit machine addict with a drink and drugs problem, Mrs H's anxiety and depression were in full swing but at that time undiagnosed, (which she was self-medicating with alcohol, and a bit later on, drugs), so we certainly had plenty of 'challenges' to work through.

Got there in the end though. I think at the core of us both getting better was the fact we truly and deeply cared for, and loved each other, which eventually won out over all the shit.

Author:  DavPaz [ Fri May 12, 2017 11:32 ]
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This right here, this is real life. :hug:

Giphy "real life":
http://media1.giphy.com/media/w1V7MfcGNALxm/giphy-loop.mp4

Author:  DavPaz [ Fri May 12, 2017 11:32 ]
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What the fuck, giphy??

Author:  myp [ Fri May 12, 2017 11:33 ]
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MaliA wrote:
Lonewolves wrote:
That's a great story. It's amazing how we can't see how bad some relationships are for us until we finally meet the right people.


And me.

Not talking to you for three years sounds like bliss.

Author:  Grim... [ Fri May 12, 2017 11:56 ]
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Lonewolves wrote:
That's a great story.

Apart from the bit where he got raped, and all.

Author:  Grim... [ Fri May 12, 2017 11:58 ]
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DavPaz wrote:
What the fuck, giphy??

Fucking incredible gif tho

Author:  DavPaz [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:00 ]
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Grim... wrote:
DavPaz wrote:
What the fuck, giphy??

Fucking incredible gif tho

No doubt.

Author:  myp [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:03 ]
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Grim... wrote:
Lonewolves wrote:
That's a great storyending to a horrible story.

Apart from the bit where he got raped, and all.

True. Fixed.

Author:  Jem [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:32 ]
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I'm not sure if I'm allowed to take part because Gaz is arguably my more nerdy half (and you probably all know the story anyway?) but...

In April 2014 I started seeing a counsellor because I was ANGRY ALL THE TIME and my then partner (dickhead) had convinced me it was because of history and shit and that I just needed to talk about it and everything would be OK. May 5th, I went to see counselling man for the 4th or 5th time and told him I was STILL ANGRY. He asked why and at first I couldn't pinpoint a reason but then I randomly just started talking about the way dickhead loaded the dishwasher.

I got home after the session, later that day I'm unloading the dishwasher and I start getting angry again so I tell dickhead he has to leave.

May 9th, with a little Russian courage (Smirnoff) I sign up to OKCupid with the intention of having casual sex with anyone vaguely interesting/attractive. Send a few messages, dick about on the Internet, put off going to bed a couple of times but circa midnight-1am I'm getting drowsy... just before switching off I happen upon Gaz's profile and it makes me laugh. Something about web developers doing all the hard work on websites and getting none of the credit, or whatever. I send him a message.

Over the weekend we are messaging back and forth and then he goes quiet. He's seen my message - OKCupid tells you this - but doesn't reply. I panic, think that he's been scared off, so do the completely rational, sensible thing and start sending him messages.. Are you OK? Have I offended you? Sorry if I said too much!

Turns out he'd been on the road all day.

So anyway, despite looking like a desperate nutcase, we arrange to meet up for a "not date" on the 16th May. Gaz picks me up, I panic and can't find my house keys. Spend 10 minutes running round the house getting increasingly more flustered and panicky, until I realise that the keys were on the sofa right where I'd been sat the whole time (I'd literally lined things up ready to go).

Not date goes well, we eat and laugh, it's getting late... we go back to his place, laugh laugh laugh. Gaz goes into the kitchen to pour me a glass of wine, then comes back and sits next to me on the sofa, putting his arm behind me (but not actually touching me) and asks if it's OK. Not wanting the whole night to go that slowly I did the only thing I could think of: straddled him and snogged his face off.

Mr "doesn't want anything serious" and Ms "just wanted sex" hit it off and fell in love. Aww. We married on the 16th May last year and celebrate our anniversary next week.

Oh, and he loads the dishwasher perfectly. :luv: :kiss:

Author:  Grim... [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:38 ]
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How did Dickhead load the dishwasher?

Author:  KovacsC [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:38 ]
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That is fab.. x

Author:  Grim... [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:38 ]
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Thanks.

Author:  KovacsC [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:39 ]
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Grim... wrote:
Thanks.



Not you :P

Author:  KovacsC [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:43 ]
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Quite a heart warming thread...


*cry's in my coffee*

Author:  Jem [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:43 ]
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Grim... wrote:
How did Dickhead load the dishwasher?


Well, mostly he never loaded it unless I nagged, but the thing that really pissed me off was the way he loaded cutlery into the basket. He'd mix everything up, some things pointing down, some pointing up. He'd put sharp knives in with it all and sometimes left them blade up. It's just fucking wrong. >:( >:( >:( >:(

The correct way to load cutlery - sharp knives blade down in the back of the basket, everything else useful end up in their own part of the basket (preferably in knife, fork, big spoon, little spoon order). You can then take each thing out in one handful and place it neatly in the drawer. Efficient and safe.

Author:  Kern [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:44 ]
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KovacsC wrote:
Quite a heart warming thread...

This!

Quote:
*cries in my coffee*

This!

Author:  devilman [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:44 ]
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*noses around OKCupid*
Attachment:
dm.PNG

I do like their username suggesting thing

Author:  Jem [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:45 ]
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I particularly like devilmanasaurus.

Author:  DavPaz [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:46 ]
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Jem wrote:
The correct way to load cutlery - sharp knives blade down in the back of the basket, everything else useful end up in their own part of the basket (preferably in knife, fork, big spoon, little spoon order). You can then take each thing out in one handful and place it neatly in the drawer. Efficient and safe.

Correct. If MrsP loads the dishwasher, I usually go and do it again. It's ok, she never actually switches the fucker on :)

Author:  Grim... [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:48 ]
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Huh, I've never done cutlery in batches (but sharp knives go blade down, because obviously).

Author:  Jem [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:50 ]
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That surprises me about you. You're sufficiently nerdy that I assumed you'd have a system. :DD

Author:  TheVision [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:50 ]
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Jem wrote:
I happen upon Gaz's profile and it makes me laugh. Something about web developers doing all the hard work on websites and getting none of the credit


With jokes like this, I can see why you fell for him. Gazchap... You should be on the stage! ;)

Author:  Jem [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:52 ]
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TheVision wrote:
Jem wrote:
I happen upon Gaz's profile and it makes me laugh. Something about web developers doing all the hard work on websites and getting none of the credit


With jokes like this, I can see why you fell for him. Gazchap... You should be on the stage! ;)


It's funny because it's true :P

Author:  myp [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:52 ]
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Jem wrote:
Gaz is arguably my more nerdy half

Yep, this is definitely arguable. :D

Author:  MaliA [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:53 ]
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Grim... wrote:
Huh, I've never done cutlery in batches (but sharp knives go blade down, because obviously).


Always mix cutlery, if it tessalates, it won't clean proper.

Author:  Grim... [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:54 ]
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Jem wrote:
That surprises me about you. You're sufficiently nerdy that I assumed you'd have a system. :DD

I gave up on any idea of a system when I let Mrs Grim... put the cutlery in the cutlery draw in the following order (left to right):

Knives
Big spoons
Forks
Little spoons

WTFF?

Everyone knows it's

Forks
Knives
Big Spoons
Little Spoons (or wherever the holder is for them)

Author:  Grim... [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:56 ]
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MaliA wrote:
Grim... wrote:
Huh, I've never done cutlery in batches (but sharp knives go blade down, because obviously).

Always mix cutlery, if it tessalates, it won't clean proper.

A little Internet hunt reveals that you are correct, at least according to dishwasher instructions.

Sounds like Dickhead is owed an apology ;)

Author:  devilman [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:57 ]
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Thankfully none of the fifteen sign-up questions on OKCupid involved dishwasher-loading etiquette or I'd have been stumped.

Author:  Jem [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:58 ]
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MaliA wrote:
Grim... wrote:
Huh, I've never done cutlery in batches (but sharp knives go blade down, because obviously).


Always mix cutlery, if it tessalates, it won't clean proper.


Never had that problem (probably partly because none of our cutlery matches, and because the dishwasher runs so frequently that there's plenty of space in the basket for things to sit apart)

Grim... wrote:
Sounds like Dickhead is owed an apology ;)


I would rather shoot myself in the face.

Also you're both wrong on drawer loading but Mrs Grim is more wrong.

Author:  Jem [ Fri May 12, 2017 12:59 ]
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Lonewolves wrote:
Jem wrote:
Gaz is arguably my more nerdy half

Yep, this is definitely arguable. :D

:DD

Author:  Kern [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:00 ]
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I'm selling tickets for the kitchen at Cottage this year. Going to be a heck of rumble.

Author:  myp [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:01 ]
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Kern wrote:
I'm selling tickets for the kitchen at Cottage this year. Going to be a heck of rumble.

That's usually my belly while waiting for the Yes Chefs to cook dinner

Author:  MaliA [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:02 ]
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Grim... wrote:
MaliA wrote:
Grim... wrote:
Huh, I've never done cutlery in batches (but sharp knives go blade down, because obviously).

Always mix cutlery, if it tessalates, it won't clean proper.

A little Internet hunt reveals that you are correct, at least according to dishwasher instructions.

Sounds like Dickhead is owed an apology ;)


I was a plongeur for many, many years, before I was a short order chef. I know my way around a dishwasher, specifically a Winterhalter GS15E. I also know to keep a cup of boiling water by the side as you unload to dunk the teaspoons in to shine them.

Author:  MrChris [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:04 ]
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MaliA wrote:
I was a plongeur for many, many years

Mali, you will always, always be a plonguer.

Author:  Findus Fop [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:07 ]
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MrChris wrote:
MaliA wrote:
I was a plongeur for many, many years

Mali, you will always, always be a plonguer.


Mange tout, Mali, mange tout.

Author:  TheVision [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:09 ]
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I met my wife on a night out. It sounds boring, but it’s more intriguing than that. Allow me to explain.

I was working in a call centre at the time and hated it (I eventually got suspended and left but that’s another story). In my team was a lady who in no certain terms, was crazy. She’d split up from her boyfriend about 12 months before and was still besotted with him. So much so that she turned up on his door step on Christmas day with a load of presents for him. She even made his mom cry… On Christmas day. She was always upset and generally couldn’t have a conversation without mentioning her ex so she wasn’t great company.

Anyway, this crazy girl was due to leave work and me and my friend had a moment of compassion and agreed to go on her leaving do. The night of the leaving do came and I was round my friends house and we were having a conversation about not going. Neither of us are going out people and we’d much rather stop at home and play games. We didn’t even have proper shoes or clothes to wear in these silly bars that we were due to go to but never the less, compassion took over and we went. It was a good job we went too as there was a grand total of 5 people on that leaving do. 3 of which were my friend and I and the person leaving.

Also on this leaving do was the future MrsVision (FMV). It turns out that she had worked at the call centre but left a month before I started so that’s how she knew the crazy lady. She was in the same boat and only went out because she felt sorry for her.

Anyway, I spent the entire night talking to my friend about games and consoles (I think the Wii had just launched so we were talking about all the possibilities of motion controls). I pretty much ignored the rest of the group.

At the end of the night we were waiting with the women who were getting taxis (I had drove) and I started talking to FMV. I babbled on about being out and not normally going out and definitely not enjoying going out. I mentioned that I was in a band but failed to mention that I was sort of seeing someone. My friend took a picture of us talking and that was it. We went our separate ways.

On the way home I had decided that she was very attractive and logged straight into my bands Myspace page as soon as I got home. I found her Myspace page and sent her a message. We chatted online for a few weeks before she agreed to go on a date with me.

We picked a really posh pub that in hindsight, was far too expensive but there you go. I was an hour late picking her up and wore a Kid Kash T shirt (He’s a wrestler). I spent most of the night trying to impress her with wrestling stories but she hadn’t heard of any of them so plan B came into play. Get her drunk and hopefully she’ll like me. There was a couple of ladies on the next table which helped with this as they gave us a bottle of champagne that they couldn’t finish. I took that as a sign!

We went on a few more dates after this and I even drove up to Worcester where she was staying at uni. We did Karaoke together in the union bar. Barbie Girl for all those interested.

It wasn’t plain sailing as I had to leave the girl I was seeing at the time but I did the decent thing and ended it… She then decided to turn up at a gig I was playing and sat across the table from FMV. Slightly awkward but luckily I was on stage for a lot of the night.

Anyway, a year later we moved in together. A year after that I asked her to marry me and this year will be out 7th anniversary and we’ve got 2 beautiful girls together.

…and to think I nearly didn’t go out that night.

Author:  myp [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:19 ]
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Just to think, if you hadn't gone out that night you'd have probably taken up a really sad hobby like collecting old games that need dumping instead

Author:  Satsuma [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:22 ]
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I met my other half when... no, hang on, fuck off you guys.

*cries into his soup for one*

Author:  MrChris [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:26 ]
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Haven't you got a dog?

Author:  KovacsC [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:29 ]
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Satsuma wrote:
I met my other half when... no, hang on, fuck off you guys.

*cries into his soup for one*


:this:

Author:  Findus Fop [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:44 ]
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KovacsC wrote:
Satsuma wrote:
I met my other half when... no, hang on, fuck off you guys.

*cries into his soup for one*


:this:


I think we have a match!

Author:  MaliA [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:47 ]
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And here we are today:

Author:  Satsuma [ Fri May 12, 2017 13:57 ]
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Findus Fop wrote:
KovacsC wrote:
Satsuma wrote:
I met my other half when... no, hang on, fuck off you guys.

*cries into his soup for one*


:this:


I think we have a match!


It could have been beautiful, then I saw what a messy shit he is. Bike outside, geesh.

:kiss:

Author:  KovacsC [ Fri May 12, 2017 14:02 ]
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Satsuma wrote:
Findus Fop wrote:
KovacsC wrote:
Satsuma wrote:
I met my other half when... no, hang on, fuck off you guys.

*cries into his soup for one*


:this:


I think we have a match!


It could have been beautiful, then I saw what a messy shit he is. Bike outside, geesh.

:kiss:


That is my indoor bike, for training.. others live outside

Author:  Satsuma [ Fri May 12, 2017 14:03 ]
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You'll live outside if you don't clean up that mess. Now where's my tea?

Author:  myp [ Fri May 12, 2017 14:11 ]
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MaliA wrote:
And here we are today:

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Author:  Trousers [ Fri May 12, 2017 14:12 ]
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Satsuma wrote:
You'll live outside if you don't clean up that mess. Now where's my tea?


To be fair outside might be better..


Author:  BikNorton [ Fri May 12, 2017 14:20 ]
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I do not miss that house or those sofas.

Still got the telly :kiss:

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