Do you need notice served?

Agreed, I struggle to think of a situation where it's to your benefit.

Because basically I need to make myself homeless before I will get a decent place to live. It sucks and it's stressing me out but if we just leave then that does not count.

Mate, check very carefully this is the case before acting. Then check again. I'm sure you have, but tread lightly.

Well, he seems to be trying for the latter, so why not so it properly.

Jc, have you actually tried talking to your landlady, and explaining to her, and I don't mean by text message.

Unless I'm mistaken you were happy and settled in your place until you heard that your landlady was selling?

Two things: she may be selling to let with new buyer potentially retaining tenants. Also, if you were happy there but will get a new house, why not just wait until she has sold up and made you homeless, then go through the process without stressing yourself out with potentially underhand tactics.

Not allowing viewing access is probably against your terms of contract, which could mean future landlords reject you as tenants.

Well, he seems to be trying for the latter, so why not so it properly.

Jc, have you actually tried talking to your landlady, and explaining to her, and I don't mean by text message.

Mrs JC has never been happy here and I have tried to be cheerful about it but I'm finally starting to agree with her, the place sucks. The windows all leak so the winter is hard (they rattle too) and generally it's just a dump. Sure I've got my computers and stereo etc here but I could have that anywhere.

Being the aspie I am as soon as she sent that text message saying she was selling the flat it's been over for me. I'm doing nothing but stressing and it's beginning to pour over into my sleep. Last night I had a very violent dream and before I had woken up I had punched a pint glass on my bedside table smashing it and cutting open my hand. Things can't go on like this I'm going to end up getting sectioned

The fact is that we just don't want to stay here now. Before the stress we put up with all of the nasty stuff because I guess we felt settled here but it's not really fair that we should have to live in a dump. And as soon as she sent that text all of the character the place has just evaporated. It just doesn't feel like home any more.

So what you are saying then is what housing are saying. These people have full control over me and there's little I can do about it. I just can't cope with it and it's beginning to cause me serious mental problems.

Yesterday afternoon the curtains in the living room broke and came crashing down. I've just had enough of it.



She has a Tesco mobile PAYG phone and it is always switched off. If I phone her it goes to a message saying she has her voicemail turned off so I can't leave her messages. For the past month or so she has just ignored all of the text messages I have sent her, including ones asking for her to phone me.

We just keep receiving text messages instructing us on what to do next and I'm fucking sick of it.

Can't you just ask her to give you notice? Guess she wants to wait until she has an completion date on the flat??

She won't give notice at all if she's looking to sell with tenants in situ.

Yeah, you were moaning the other week that you were going to be kicked out, now you have convinced your self the place is shit, you want it the other way.

If they are buying to let.

And that to an aspie means that we could be made homeless at any minute.

We've already been told by both estate agents that she's selling regardless of whether she can sell it with us in it or not.

And that to an aspie means that we could be made homeless at any minute.

You have an iron clad legal guarantee of between two and three months of notice. It cannot happen "at any minute."

Surely that's just normal anxiety thinking like that? Everyone has those sorts of worries. If anything people with autism have a higher level of intelligence when it comes to understanding things.

Look up "Fight or flight".

Oh, absolutely get that it's anxiety and it must be horrible to deal with. But this is a thread asking for advice about forcing your landlord to give notice - and the best advice that can be offered is "don't". Do your best to ignore the fact that she's selling the place (very difficult, I know). The worst case is that she sells to someone who doesn't want tenants, in which case you get your two months notice and deal with it then.

Also, you're not stuck - you can give her notice and move out. Now obviously, that doesn't fit with what you want, to be made homeless in order to seek sheltered housing, totally understood. But it's not fair to put that on her.

My landlady finally called back and spoke to Nicola (Mrs JC). She said that she would be willing to serve us a section whatever it is and let us stay until the eviction date (you need to follow through and do it the full peg so that is pretty kind of her seeing as it would cost her money to do it through the courts)

I love you guys though, and I hope I can get through this all soon and go back to just annoying the shit out of you all day with my misunderstandings and completely broken context.