As a parent of children over the age of Hearthly Jnr, I don't think this would be my hill to die on. She drew it, so she also has to be part of implementing it - it works both ways.
The fact she conforms enough for school is a total win, if having a little more control at home over those sort of things is the compromise then it's no bad thing in my book. You can romanticise the amount of control you think you'll have, but kids are people with their own quirks and personalities. Squishing them into little boxes of exemplary behavior over every aspect of yours and their life is not realistic. Invariably, they could be so much worse
Maybe it's a bit hippy but I try to agree terms with my kids before punishment gets doles out. Having a tidy room is such a nonsense if you chose to apply it by your own metric and that shit escalates when you have a child who isn't a meek little angel. The agreement in our house is that it gets tidied to a set standard once a week, they choose the day and the week starts Monday and ends Sunday night. If that doesn't happen, the following week they lose 3 days of internet privileges. They know the rule and they helped negotiate it. Same goes with the time the internet goes off at night, I find it reduces the amount of whinging when the rules are enforced.
