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Author:  Morte [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 10:10 ]
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Congratulations!

Achievement Unlocked!
Author:  zaphod79 [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 10:27 ]
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Congratulations to you both !
Author:  markg [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 11:19 ]
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asfish wrote:
**Unsolicited Baby Advice Post 1** :)

Best High chair. will last until child is 7 via adjustments. Lots of cheaper copies out there now though http://www.stokke.com/GBR/en-gb/w/acces ... tAodjRQA7A

This stuff for nappy rash, nothing better http://www.metanium.co.uk/

Join an NCT group you make great friends for your wife and if you are lucky like me the blokes are good guys too

We got given one of those, a right faff to clean. Much prefer this one from ikea:

http://www.ikea.com/gb/en/catalog/products/S29067293/

Easy to take on trips too.
Author:  Zardoz [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 11:56 ]
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It's a trapp!
Author:  DBSnappa [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 12:08 ]
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Congrats guys. Let's hope the new addition gets Meems dancing skills ;)
Author:  Mr Russell [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 12:56 ]
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DBSnappa wrote:
Congrats guys. Let's hope the new addition gets Meems dancing skills ;)


Let's hope he/she gets pretty much everything from Mimi.

I am massively freaky in all attributes, and would not want to curse a baby with any of my traits.
Author:  myp [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 13:17 ]
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Mr Russell wrote:
I am massively freaky in all attributes, and would not want to curse a baby with any of my traits.

Don't do yourself down. You paint a nice landscape.
Author:  Trousers [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 14:12 ]
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You two have had sex? DIRTY BASTARDS.

Also congratulations. That child will grow up happy and loved and with a sore neck and homemade awesome clothes.
Author:  Mimi [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 18:56 ]
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Aw, thank you all so much, folks!

It was a difficult couple of months, and I have been very ill and worried, and I've had a pretty hard time trying to convince myself that things might be OK, but though I still get the occasional bout of feeling bad I'm no longer fainting or being sick, and I've even made it back to work as of yesterday, so I think it is onwards and upwards.

The worry of health and past complications was compounded by all the problems I was having at work which ended, over 8 weeks ago, with me just trying to balance out the fact that I was having a mental breakdown with work pressure with happy baby news. Yesterday was hard, stepping back into that arena, but I hope that I can make it through with grit and determination. And tummy rubs from everyone from managers to the post ladies. Come and rub my tummy, it's the done thing it seems.

Russell has been amazing. You know, I love him dearly, but he has managed better than I ever thought he would. One thing stays with me, and that's that he said the sound of the bathroom cabinet closing puts dread and fear in his soul because that was the sound he heard when I passed out in our bathroom and cut all my head and face open. Now I think how much better I feel, but how bad I had been.

It's nice to tell people now. I have felt so alone, two months sat here alone with so many thoughts just whirring around, and so many worries. I have so much support from Russell, but the world outside of that seemed pretty empty for a while.

The vast majority of people who now know have been so supportive and loving, I feel as if I am back in the world.

I am going to have a look at all those links now. We've just allowed ourselves little first glimpses of baby things, again in hope, and it makes me feel so warm and squiggly inside.

I'm sure we'll also be asking for pushchair advice, because man, does that seem like a minefield! I think one of those 'travel systems' seems to look like a good idea (with the carseat/pram/buggy... three interchangeable bits - would hopefully last a few years?) But goodness me, it makes my head spin.

We're going to book and NCT course. I don't know anyone around here, let alone any parents. I hope that it will just give us someone to speak to about it all as much as anything.
Author:  Curiosity [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 20:34 ]
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NCT courses are awesome.

Actually the courses themselves are mostly rubbish, but having a group of people going through the same things and with a kid of the same age is invaluable.

Our lot are turning 4 around now, and we're still meeting up and stuff; going on a camping holiday with them all again this year!

We'll all be as helpful as we can be, though take anything we say as just options and possible advice; every kid is different and people get super emotional about raising a child. Whatever way you do it, don't get hung up on thinking you're doing it wrong. Easier said than done, but unless you're leaving it in the bath unattended or something, you guys will be awesome.
Author:  Mimi [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 21:01 ]
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Dude, I cried at One Direction when I was five weeks pregnant.

My emotional response knows no bounds.
Author:  MaliA [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 21:04 ]
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NCT class was super good fun.
Author:  Mimi [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 21:06 ]
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MaliA wrote:
NCT class was super good fun.

Did you cry at One Direction.
Author:  MaliA [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 21:08 ]
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Mimi wrote:
MaliA wrote:
NCT class was super good fun.

Did you cry at One Direction.


Only because Taylor
Author:  Mimi [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 21:14 ]
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I don't know who they are, because I hate them.

But one day... Man, that song was beautiful.

Just once.

Hate them again now.
Author:  Mr Dave [ Tue Mar 24, 2015 22:17 ]
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Mimi wrote:
MaliA wrote:
NCT class was super good fun.

Did you cry at One Direction.

I think I'd cry if I were made to listen to them.
Author:  asfish [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 8:20 ]
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Curiosity wrote:
NCT courses are awesome.

Actually the courses themselves are mostly rubbish, but having a group of people going through the same things and with a kid of the same age is invaluable.

Our lot are turning 4 around now, and we're still meeting up and stuff; going on a camping holiday with them all again this year!

We'll all be as helpful as we can be, though take anything we say as just options and possible advice; every kid is different and people get super emotional about raising a child. Whatever way you do it, don't get hung up on thinking you're doing it wrong. Easier said than done, but unless you're leaving it in the bath unattended or something, you guys will be awesome.


:this:

2 years in for our NCT Group now, we are all meeting up on Saturday and some of us going to Spain (again) at the end of April.
Author:  asfish [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 8:28 ]
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Bit early but this is worth a look for the birth

http://www.hypnobirthing.co.uk/

My wife was very into this, I have to admit I was not convinced but went along with it, this included 3 Saturdays on a course and endless practice every night.

When it came to the birth of our son, he was 2 weeks late so my wife was induced, my son was not keen to come into the world so my they kept having to stop and start things as he was getting stressed. She was monitored throughout the whole process as a result.

For induced babies they inject women with Syntocinon which is a natural hormone that starts things off. I always remember the midwife saying that she had never seen a women not scream for an epidural on the levels of Syntocinon my wife was been given.

She did the whole thing on gas and air and hypnobirthing exercises. She had an overall pretty good birth with no real issues.

Everyone is different but hypnobirthing is well worth a look as I've no doubt now that it helps.

Also with birthing plans, make one and choose what ever you want, but understand you could end up having to scrap it all due to things out of your control. My wife had a pool booked but had to be in bed monitored for the whole thing. Now she wants a bloody pool at home for the 2nd one!
Author:  TheVision [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:55 ]
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My wife did the hypnobirthing thing for our second.

We would both heartily recommend it.
Author:  myp [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:57 ]
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Is this the first full-Beex baby? As in two proper members here who got together after the inception of the forum? I know we have plenty of half-Beexers.
Author:  TheVision [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 10:14 ]
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I was thinking this last night and I believe it is... Unless someone hasn't told us something?
Author:  DavPaz [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 11:14 ]
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Welp, that's the middle name sorted.

(Stuart)
Author:  Mr Dave [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 11:16 ]
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DavPaz wrote:
Welp, that's the middle name sorted.

(Stuart)

Poor girl.
Author:  myp [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 11:20 ]
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Stuart Two Pounds a Month Codd
Author:  MaliA [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 11:43 ]
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Will Mimi be a Mummy, or a Zombie?
Author:  Mr Russell [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 12:23 ]
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Oh, as it's a forum baby we will of course be calling it Richard Gaywood.
Author:  myp [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 12:55 ]
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The Internet's Famous Doctor Richard Gaywood Codd
Author:  KovacsC [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 12:57 ]
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Mr Russell wrote:
Oh, as it's a forum baby we will of course be calling it Richard Gaywood.


And if it is a boy?
Author:  Doctor Glyndwr [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 13:15 ]
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Mr Russell wrote:
What's this? Oh, just a scan of our baby that's in Mimi's tummy :)


Image

Mr Russell wrote:
Oh, as it's a forum baby we will of course be calling it Richard Gaywood.


Image
Author:  Mimi [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 14:24 ]
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Doctor Glyndwr wrote:
Mr Russell wrote:
What's this? Oh, just a scan of our baby that's in Mimi's tummy :)


Image

Mr Russell wrote:
Oh, as it's a forum baby we will of course be calling it Richard Gaywood.


Image


I have no idea who that is, but he has the best beardy-face I have ever seen. He looks so friendly. like The Egg.
Author:  myp [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 14:26 ]
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Mimi wrote:
I have no idea who that is, but he has the best beardy-face I have ever seen.

:'(
Author:  Doctor Glyndwr [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 14:27 ]
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It's Robert Redford!
Author:  Grim... [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 14:47 ]
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Huh, I thought it was Zach Galifianakis.
Author:  Trousers [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 14:55 ]
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At first glance I thought it was Jaime Lannister
Author:  Doctor Glyndwr [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 15:04 ]
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It's from a 1972 film, Jeremiah Johnson.

Image
Author:  myp [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 15:19 ]
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Doctor Glyndwr wrote:
It's from a 1972 film, Jeremiah Johnson.

Image

I was trying to work it out, but failed.
Author:  MaliA [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 15:23 ]
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Future Warrior wrote:
Doctor Glyndwr wrote:
It's from a 1972 film, Jeremiah Johnson.

Image

I was trying to work it out, but failed.


You sit on the horse and fire the gun
Author:  Ramsea [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 21:29 ]
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Congratulations. 1Up.
Author:  Zardoz [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 23:08 ]
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Bayonetta if it's a girl.
Author:  Zardoz [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 23:09 ]
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Bayonetta Zayn Cod.
Author:  Mimi [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 14:35 ]
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I tell you what I wouldn't mind a bit of (understandably subjective) opinion/experience/ideas on, and that's birth locations.

I have the option of a home birth, which I don't really fancy, hospital birth of birth on a midwife-led unit.

has anyone opted for a midwife-led unit? It's about a quarter of a mile from the hospital if any transfer is needed, and from the pictures at least it looks lovely: privacy, large room to your family, birthing pools, etc, but the midwife said that the one thing that counts against it is how quickly you are moved out - you tend not to be in longer than 8-10 hours before being sent home, whereas you get 24hrs care afterwards in hospital. Obviously this is just my midwife's thought an opinion.

I'd not really heard of a midwife lead unit before, and wondered if anyone had any experience and whether it was good or bad experience :)
Author:  Mr Dave [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 14:41 ]
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I would follow the advice that Grim... is probably going to provide.

Because Grim…...
Author:  Grim... [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 14:42 ]
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Hospital.
Author:  Mimi [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 14:47 ]
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Grim... wrote:
Hospital.

Is the best choice, do you mean?

It is my initial feel for safety's sake as there are doctors and surgeons on hand in case. I just wondered if it was because I had never really considered anything other than hospital before being presented with a choice (as I never really knew there was a choice outside of the home birth/hospital decision.)

The only thing that has made me think about it is the opening of options by the midwife (who has not overtly said, but I have the impression that she is personally more in favour of the hospital option) and the one thought that I just can't stand hospitals, like most people I guess.
Author:  Grim... [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 14:57 ]
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Mimi wrote:
Grim... wrote:
Hospital.

Is the best choice, do you mean?

Yes.

You've already ignored Grim...'s Guide To Babies advice #1, but advice #2 is "have it in a hospital".
Author:  MaliA [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 15:00 ]
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I think MrsA was in a midwife led thingy.
Author:  DavPaz [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 15:11 ]
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Both of mine were born in midwife led units *inside* hospitals. Both water births, too.
Author:  TheVision [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 15:36 ]
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I wouldn't have wanted my wife to go anywhere but hospital and our experience was fantastic.
Author:  flis [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 15:43 ]
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Wow you guys, huge congratulations :)

I'm sure for the next few months you'll receive all kinds of unsolicited baby and parenting advise and bump rubbing! If you are given an option for where to have your baby, then that means all options are open to you at this stage. Go for whichever one you feel that you'll be most comfortable with. You'll be monitored throughout your pregnancy so continue to take on board the advice of your doctor and mid-wife because things can change. It's been a while since I had any babies but we got a tour of the hospital to see the birthing suites etc. You said you don't generally move in baby and child-rearing circles so when you go to your NCT group, there'll be people in there that are much more aware of the all the options in your area so speak to them.

One thing I will say though, is that birth plans have a habit of changing. You need to keep that in mind and don't get too hung up on things not going exactly how you idealised. You don't like hospitals but you should consider the idea that you could end up giving birth there.

You guys will do great, enjoy these months together :)
Author:  Jem [ Thu Mar 26, 2015 15:47 ]
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Congratulations to you both :)

Mimi - I was terribly ill with all my pregnancies so I know what it's like to have an extra bit of worry on your shoulders BUT I have two beautiful, scarily cheeky children now and that puts it into perspective (for me at least). I'm not sure they were worth the 9 months of vomiting each but HEY, you take what you can get ;)

As with all the choices you will find yourselves presented with over the coming months (years) everyone will have wildly different opinions and some people can get SCARY protective of theirs, but for the two you've asked so far:

re: where to birth... I personally had my first in a hospital (wasn't my 1st choice, long boring story) and hated it - felt like a piece of cattle that they wanted to process and get rid of as soon as possible. I had my 2nd in the midwife-led unit that I had wanted to have my 1st in, but only because I bribed the senior midwife whilst I was *in labour* by stating if they didn't let me go there RIGHT AWAY I would have it at home unassisted. That did the trick. Despite a complication with the cord (easily sorted by the midwife but felt bloody scary at the time) it was a more peaceful, relaxed birth and I felt 100% in control all of the way. No regrets about my bribing ;)

re: pushchairs... we bought a travel system for the first and ended up using the car seat but I opted for a sling after 6 weeks / exclusively carried my second. I think I would have rather put the money into a better car seat (and ultimately have spent a fortune on car seats because I 'extended rear-face') and then seen how I felt about pushchairs after the birth, especially as the choice is enormous. One thing you probably will want to do if you go down the pushchair route is TRY THEM OUT in the shops, because they certainly ain't made equal.

Good luck you guys :D
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